I Hate You Dr. Phil

All right, here's the problem with talking about your feelings.
Feelings don't last forever.
So here's what happens.

You're having the shittiest day, and everything is annoying you, even the smallest things. So what do you do? You rant about it to just about anyone that will listen. You say things you don't mean and things you never would say. What happens after that?

Well the person listening to it doesn't realize you're having a bad day. They think you seriously have a problem with who or whatever you're talking about. So what do these people do?

They suddenly become mediators and become a Dr. Phil. They think they can solve EVERYTHING. They tell everything you said to the person you're talking about. If any of you guys played the game "telephone" you will understand what I'm talking about.

This "Dr.Phil" starts to paraphrase everything you said. They don't include the fact that you were having a bad day. They don't tell the person stuff you said before whatever it is they are telling them. And guess what happens next?

The person you were talking "shit" about is fucking angry. They think "WTF! Why is Tim being such a bitch about such a small thing. Why is he talking shit about me behind my back. I fucking hate that guy. [Include rest of rant here]"

And here I am. Just sipping on my milk the next day. All the angry feelings I had yesterday is gone. I don't hate anyone. I realize all the things I rant about yesterday was stupid and dumb. I didn't mean any of it. Life goes on, right?

NOPE

The person I was talking about in my rant starts to act passive aggressive towards me as if I killed his first born son. There's going to be friction between me and this person for a long time. Why a long time?

Because he's not going to confront me about what he heard me say and I'm not going to confront him about what I said because I have no clue he even heard it. I thought the person I told would keep it a secret, I didn't know she was going to turn Dr. Phil on me.

Yup. That's my story. It happened to me so many times that it's no longer funny. What is the moral of the story?
I have no clue, but a couple things I learned is: don't talk about my feelings to anyone; if i had to talk about my feelings, either talk to someone you KNOW will not try to fix it.

It's hard to find these people because almost everyone wants to "fix" things, too bad they always end up messing it up. =/

Oh also, to the people who listen to other people's problem. Please don't try to fix the situation by yourself. I mean, sometimes when people rant, they just want someone to hear it, that way they can get their feelings out and move on. But if you INSIST on making things better, PLEASE just set up a meeting of some sort between the two people. 9/10 times, you will probably mess up the meaning of the whole thing and make the situation way worse!

"Gossip is the worst poison we can spread."

TisforTimothy!

Nice to meet you :]

Hi, my name is Timothy.
I'm a great listener.
I try to give the best advice whenever I can.
If you had a terrible day, I would always be there trying to make you smile.
If someone is a jerk towards you, I'll be there to get you out of the situation.
I am very open minded and will take in all advice/criticism.
If I think there is something wrong with you, I'll probably be the first person to tell you.
If you told me something, no matter how private or public, I will never tell anyone else.
I have to admit though, I am a little complicated. I don't like a lot of things.
I don't care what anybody thinks about me.
I have never met someone that completely understood me.

That's how I want people see me as soon as I meet them. Unfortunately, that's not how it works.

Instead I have to dress a certain way. I have to talk a certain way. I have to act a certain way. I have to do a lot of things to try to demonstrate who I am on the inside. Because the truth is, people judge. People will judge you the moment they meet you.

And sometimes when people start doing things a certain way, they change on the inside. They no longer are what they were. They become so wrapped up in pretending to be someone else in order to attract others. This evidently, end up pushing them away.

Why do people do this?
Why do people do things to show that they are interesting?
Why do some people walk around with a guitar but cannot play it?

Because these people know that most people will not notice who they are on the inside unless they change themselves on the outside.

Someone said this to me

(11:34:22 PM): why the freak would you want to want girls who only like you for your guitar

(11:34:24 PM): . yea it's pretty,

(11:34:31 PM): but that shouldn't be the reason

(11:34:33 PM): why they like you

Well, it's not that I want people to like me just because I play the guitar, I want people to notice me and maybe like me once they get to know me. Unfortunately, most people won't notice others unless they are flashy.

Luckily, I know that someone out there will notice and like another person for who they are. This is the person you want to be with, not people who will only like you for a certain reason. So don't pretend to be someone else, because when you do, you risk changing who you are.

Unfortunately, not all of us are able to find this person that will like us for who we are.
But if you do, you better fucking fight for it.

I know I would.



Oh, don't forget
TisforTimothy =]